I was nine years old. the first time I quit. The reason that I left little league football was not because I didn’t want to play.
The real reason I quit football at the mature age of nine was to punish my dad for being a chronic alcoholic. Although he’d stop drinking in a year or so, he was still living life as a sloppy and mostly angry drunk.
And for some odd reason, I didn’t appreciate having an occasionally violent and sloppy drunk for a dad.
I knew that he wanted me to play and to be successful. He didn’t know that I’d never rise above 5 feet 9.5 inches. Regardless, I decided to punish him and quit.
There was no chance for a budding career in college or pro if I didn’t play. So when the coach eventually called to check on me for missing practice, I told him that I quit.
“That’ll teach him,” I thought.
But here’s the problem with quitting. It only gets easier.
Don’t get me wrong. Sometimes quitting is probably the right call.
Say you’ve been puffing away at two packs of aromatic cigarettes for years. With the right amount of motivation or nicotine substitute, you might be able to quit and recover some semblance of a normal life.
Alcoholics can also quit.
On a completely different topic, once a nurse asked if I smoked as part of her standard screening questions. I said no, but was willing to try. She laughed.
But I think that quitting simply to hurt others is just immature.
Sometimes we quit because of fear.
I have a friend who once brought his fiancée a wax rose (he couldn’t find an open florist – or so he said). There’s nothing quite like like trying to express commitment in the gift of a fake rose. He eventually got cold feet and canceled their wedding. In other words, he quit.
Unfortunately, I’ve used the quiting card several more times through the years with jobs, people, and half-finished blog posts. Sometimes it was the right thing to do.
Many times it was not.
I wish I had not quit playing football when I was nine. I wish that my dad had never started drinking.
I also wish I’d not quit 9th-grade algebra in the 12th grade, but we all have to play with the hand we’ve been dealt.